TRADITIONS

I really want to share some pictures with you all, but unfortunately, the files can't upload on here. I don't know why...

These days... getting heated... Kenneth wanna finished up the house decoration. The blindings, the furniture setting, etc etc...

For me, wedding stuffs, There are somethings I really wanna DIY, I guess, I will do them next week. If I can do it, then that is good; if I can't do it, then let it be. I think it should be ok even not including any DIY thing...

Afterall, it is just a wedding, the beginning of our new chapter. I don't mind, and I don't really care those minor things.

Something was bothering me in the past week. Someone was telling me on how to do all those Chinese Traditions in order. But I don't understand why she had to put her way to do her wedding into my wedding. It really bothers me.

All about the TRADITIONS, but how should we follow the TRADITIONS? Yes, being Chinese should follow what so called "Tradition", but being a Christian and I don't think I should follow the WHOLE TRADITION.

I care about that person as my friend, but somehow she doesn't act like a person closed to me. I really mind what she said to me. But anyway... Good... after this... I will not go further in our friendship anymore...

Yeah, I am being Siu Hay... but this is my wedding, if both parents are ok with our decisions, she shouldn't say anything but support me, BUT not pointing to my nose and say how bad decision I made.

Ha Ha Ha!! Good... I have one less friend.  I don't care!!!


Here you go....

Chinese Traditional Wedding Customs


1. Proposal & Engagement
When a couple decides to get married, a formal meeting of both parents is typically held to discuss the actual date of the wedding as well as the wedding banquet. It is a Chinese wedding tradition that the groom’s family presents various proposal gifts that represent fertility and prosperity in Chinese culture, known as the “Grand Gift”. On the acceptance of the “Grand Gift” by the bride’s family, an engagement will automatically be set up.


2. Pre-Wedding Customs
After the meeting of both parents, both families will make announcements to their relatives and friends. At the same time, the bride’s family would treat people to“Double Happiness Cakes”along with invitations to the wedding. The bride’s family would then prepare dowry and give a list of the dowries to the groom’s family. The groom’s family is also obliged to perform the“setting bridal bed”ritual.


3. Wedding Day Ceremony
On the day of wedding, the bride and the groom’s parents would compromise and come up with a “lucky hour” for the couple to carry out the traditional wedding ritual. For example, the bride’s family would implement the “hair combing” ritual while the groom’s family performs the “capping” ritual. The groom then sets off to the bride’s home, with the bridesmaids inevitably blocking him at the door. The bridesmaids will then challenge the groom by asking impeccably difficult questions so as to prevent the groom from seeing the bride. The groom, his best man and friends are required to answer all of the questions as well as presenting a “Door opening Lai See” in order to enter the house. The bride and the groom then attend the “Tea Ceremony” with each other’s parents.


4. Post-wedding Rituals

The next morning after the wedding, the bride and the groom have to attend the “Tea Ceremony” with groom’s parents. And the bride is normally required to prepare breakfast for the groom’s family in order to demonstrate that she is well nurtured.

The third day after the wedding, the bride and the groom would pay a visit to the bride’s family, with presents in hand.